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In February 2011, Jason posted “The Spouse and Upgrades debate”. In that post he recounted a flight where he received an upgrade to first class, but his wife did not. His dilemma was whether to keep the upgrade for himself (and being a tall guy, he really could use it), or to be chivalrous and turn it over to his wife. Read his original post to find out what he decided to do.
This age old question of what to do when a family is split up between upgrades and coach was first brought to light in several ancient Greek tragedies in which the young hero makes the wrong decision about what to do with his chariot upgrade and ultimately suffers the wrath of the Gods. In the end of one such tale, the hero makes good by gifting elite status to his betrothed, but the hero was then fated forever-after to be last on every upgrade list. Please don’t ask me for specific references to these ancient texts. Once Jason is better I’m sure he’d be happy to dig them up for you.
In modern times, we no longer have the wrath of Gods to deal with. Today’s dilemma is worse – we risk the wrath of our spouse. I frequently travel with both my wife and my son. When we’re all in coach, we happily take up an entire 3 person row. Occasionally, all three of us get upgraded and we’re all even happier. More often, though, I’m the only one in the family offered an upgrade. My first response is always to say to my wife “you should take it”. But she always says that she would prefer to stay with her family. Then she says that if I want the upgrade, I should take it. Of course, what she really means is “if you love first class more than you love your family, go ahead and take the upgrade”. Yikes.
So, what should I do? I really hate to give up upgrades! I would much prefer my wife take it than give it up altogether. If you’ve read my blog, you know that I love great deals and giving up an upgrade is like giving up a great deal. On the other hand, since flights are almost always full these days, if I take the upgrade that means that a stranger will sit next to my wife and son. Inevitably, this means a disastrous flight for both of them. I don’t know why, but my wife seems to attract the worst seat-mates. Here are just two of her experiences:
- Recently, my wife sat next to a guy who wore dark sunglasses on the plane. He asked her if he could drink from her water bottle (ewww! No!) and asked her is she could tell him her address, where she worked, etc. Luckily my wife found a different open seat to move to.
- On another flight my wife sat next to a guy who wouldn’t stop talking. In the conversation, he found out where she worked, and he later looked her up and emailed her to keep the conversation going!
So, the last time I was upgraded I gave my first class boarding pass to the gentleman who was already seated in coach when we boarded. He jumped up with a big smile on his face, thanked us, and rushed to the first class cabin. He was happy. I got to sit with my wife and son and so we were happy too. I guess we got a great deal after all.
So, what would you do? I’m sure this has happened to many readers — what have you done?
Get better soon Jason!